I've thought long and hard about this issue over the years. Fortunately, I've never really had to confront any of my friends on this issue.
I have taught a few of my friends in the neighborhood to fly fish and none of them has ever taken advantage of me. We have to call a spade a spade here. When anyone expects you to provide them with flies, unless it has been addressed from the beginning that the services you provide for a fee include such, they are taking advantage of you. The other exception is when you provide flies as a form of thanks for something that your friend has done for you or someone dear to you. Most times this would be a once-and-done deal.
I know it can be a sensitive issue; however if you're afraid it would strain your relationship there is a problem with the relationship already.
I make it a point to let folks know I don't tie for anyone else unless they are willing to pay $10/fly. It isn't that my flies are worth that much, it is that it is difficult for me to dicipline myself to tie for me! For anyone to expect me to use my time (a commodity I can never replace and of which we could argue the value for many moons) and materials I've had to purchase to tie flies only to relinquish my rights to same for the sole purpose of ensuring they have flies with which to fish - and I don't even feel they grasp what's going on - well, that's not what this game is all about.
Have I encountered people willing to pay $10/fly? Well...
Do I give flies away? Now and then, BUT ONLY ON MY TERMS! And I truly believe the recipient values and appreciates my gesture.
Your friends should understand and appreciate your position if you address this issue with them tactfully. That is, if they are true friends.
I have taught a few of my friends in the neighborhood to fly fish and none of them has ever taken advantage of me. We have to call a spade a spade here. When anyone expects you to provide them with flies, unless it has been addressed from the beginning that the services you provide for a fee include such, they are taking advantage of you. The other exception is when you provide flies as a form of thanks for something that your friend has done for you or someone dear to you. Most times this would be a once-and-done deal.
I know it can be a sensitive issue; however if you're afraid it would strain your relationship there is a problem with the relationship already.
I make it a point to let folks know I don't tie for anyone else unless they are willing to pay $10/fly. It isn't that my flies are worth that much, it is that it is difficult for me to dicipline myself to tie for me! For anyone to expect me to use my time (a commodity I can never replace and of which we could argue the value for many moons) and materials I've had to purchase to tie flies only to relinquish my rights to same for the sole purpose of ensuring they have flies with which to fish - and I don't even feel they grasp what's going on - well, that's not what this game is all about.
Have I encountered people willing to pay $10/fly? Well...
Do I give flies away? Now and then, BUT ONLY ON MY TERMS! And I truly believe the recipient values and appreciates my gesture.
Your friends should understand and appreciate your position if you address this issue with them tactfully. That is, if they are true friends.